I have a confession to make: I really don't like the single life but what I like even less than being single is dating. So how am I supposed to get out of the single life without dating? If I ever figure out the magical formula, I will let you know. Not that most of you need it.
Problems with whole dating/single life thing are:
Age. The older I get, the more set in my ways I become. Same goes for the men I know.
Experience. The more experience I have with dating and relationships the less I trust men.
Love. I am afraid to fall in love OR admit that I feel love for a man.
So unless I get over some of these, then I am destined for the single life. In a world of couple's, the prospect is pretty depressing. Maybe it is a case of the grass is always greener but remember I have been on the other side of the fence. I know it is not always greener. I know it takes work but I am older and I think I could handle it better the next time around. Better yet, I know what I want in a relationship.
IF I have another chance at coupledom, I want a partnership. I dislike it when I hear a man or woman say they LET their husband or wife do something. For example, "I let my wife go shopping with her sister today" or "I let my husband go play poker with his buddies." I wouldn't want my partner to feel as though he needs to ask my permission to do something. I wouldn't want him to leave me in the dark either but you don't own another person. Decisions should be discussed of course but someone shouldn't have to ask permission. I also want someone who has a life that doesn't revolve around me. He needs to have hobbies, friends, something that gets him out of the house now and then because after being single for 12 years I don't know that I could have someone around ALL OF THE TIME.
Maybe I am hopeless. Perhaps my ideas on relationships aren't realistic. But maybe I will get lucky and find someone, somewhere who thinks the same. If not then I had better get used to the single life.