Friday, June 4, 2010

The Beauty of Friendship

A friend knows the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails. ~Donna Roberts
The day started with a problem.  One I won't bore you with.  I sat on my couch alone and thinking about what I was going to do about my problem.  I didn't want to ask for help.  I decided I would just deal with it. in a "It is what it is" sort of manner.  Nothing to do but walk through it. 

Then I needed to vent about it, not rant and rave but just let someone know.  I sent an IM on my Blackberry to my friend, Maiken.  She is great for this sort of thing.  I don't even have to go into detail.  I just gave her the jist of my problem.  She didn't try to solve it.  Just agreed that these things suck.  I felt better.

She came over this afternoon, bringing chocolate and Coke (she knows just what I need).  We chatted, we laughed a little, we reminisced about a horrible, horrible double date we had in high school, and I forced her to take gave her a few things I won't need when I move. 

Before she left, she gave me a great big hug.  The kind of hug that says without words "everything is okay and I am here if you need me".

I feel better.  I don't know if I would have felt better had she not been there for me today.  Maybe I would still be pondering my problem instead of moving through it.

Maiken has been my friend since middle school.  Over the years we have lost touch and reconnected quite a few times.  Every time we reconnect it is as though we never lost touch.  I can tell her anything no matter how embarrassing and I know she will be the last person to place any judgements on me or my actions.  I am 100% myself in her company. 

I love her for being my friend and for everything she adds to my life.

9 comments:

just call me jo said...

Aren't good friends wonderful. Better than family in most cases; they read your heart. Chocolate and Coke--what else would you need. Well, a shoulder and a hug, but other than that. Hope you muck through the misery and make it out the other side stronger. Hugs from me far away and no chocolate or Coke--sorry!

Linda said...

Maiken sounds like a treasure! How wonderful that she was able to stop by this afternoon, and bringing chocolate and coke! She's a double treasure!

I hope your issue gets resolved soon. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts!

Maiken said...

Second time in one day you've touched me with sincere friendship. Love you, lady!

Katie said...

Friends like that are a rare find! What a blessing to have someone you can call on when you need it.

Cynthia said...

Good friends must be held tightly and treasured. I'm glad you have a friend like that in her.

mCat said...

I love the quote at the top of the post. I heard it just today at church and immediatly thought about the friends I have that know the song of my heart and that never fail me.
Your Maiken is a true gift!

Megan said...

I have only a few friends like that--I think it's impossible to have many. They are a rare and precious gift. And it seems like they are usually people you met when you were very young. I make new friends all the time--but they just aren't the same as old friends. There's something really special about someone who knew you when you were geeky and pimply and had no confidence--and they still loved you. I'm glad you have such a great friend to help you out!

Pam said...

That's the beauty of friendship. She sounds like a jewel. Hope your problem is resolved soon.

B said...

I'm so glad you have a friend like that Amy! They are invaluable and just like you said, a simple hug from them says it all.

And if you ever need to, feel free to vent away in my direction. I won't be able to bring any chocolate or coke but can send some in spirit.

I'm glad you're feeling better and that you have such great friendships in your life! :)