Tuesday, September 13, 2011
As many of you know, for the last few years my soon-to-be seventeen year old son has been writing a book - rather a series of books. He is determined to become a published author and I am 100% behind him on this. When he hits a bump in the road to this dream, he just plows right over it. When the dog ate the memory stick he saved his book to, Austin just re-wrote all 150 pages. No problem.
A couple of months ago he sent his book to his step-mother's friend who is an editor for a publishing company. They publish LDS books, so they definitely won't be publishing his, but she was kind enough to offer her editing services and comments. Today he received an e-mail from her. Overall she likes the story and has given him a lot of constructive criticism. Where I would probably curl up in a ball and take it as "I suck!" Austin says this, "I'm going to take her suggestions, make some changes and send it back to her." Then he eagerly reads through her notes and starts coming up with ideas to put her suggestions into action.
Homecoming is this coming weekend - on his birthday. He has had a crush on a girl in his class since the beginning of last school year. This year he asked her to the dance. He and his step-mom made an invitation. The wheres and whens included all of the info for the dance with a note that said, "You would make my birthday wish come true if you would go to homecoming with me." Or something like that. He had told her in a previous conversation that the dance was on his birthday. She already had a date for the dance and had to say no. He was a little down about it but instead of letting it get to him, he asked another friend.
I know he was disappointed but instead of letting it ruin Homecoming and his birthday he chose to move forward and adjust the plan. I could learn from this kid.
When I run into a bump, my first instinct is to curl up and say "I can't do this." Then I usually go down a completely different path leading me further and further away from my dreams. I did this with school. When I decided to go back to school, I wanted to be a teacher. I looked at the schedule I would have and how that would work with being a single mom, working full-time, and decided I couldn't do it. Instead I went to the University of Phoenix and pursued a business degree. I then compounded that mistake by getting an MBA also through the University of Phoenix. That's just one example of moving further away from what I really want in my life.
I let the bumps hinder and scare me instead of plowing forward.
From this point forward, I am going to plow through. I am not going to let myself curl up and say "I can't". I am going to learn from my son's example. I am going to attack the weight loss bump. The big one.
Wish me luck!